STOP being so negative all the time and reliving the past….carrying baggage with you only wears you down. You can’t change what has happened, but you can move on.. I should know…..it nearly killed me…but constantly reminding yourself and others what a shit day you had, how miserable you feel, how no one understands, omg, the list goes on..THE PROBLEM HERE IS …you are CONSTANTLY TALKING NEGATIVITY INTO BEING….
I seriously know what I am on about, I was diagnosed with clinical depression in my early 20’s….and fibromyalgia in my 30’s, I am now 52 and am managing my life withouts prescription drugs ………so before getting on your box, and telling me ‘I have NO idea’, trust me I seriously do…and am now talking from experience…
I have learnt, with wise words from close family and friends, that no matter how much you fuk’d up, made wrong decisions, took the wrong path, THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT NOW, The guilt, the hurt, the stress, the total ‘i give up’, IS IN THE PAST, you can’t change what has happend….just try ( it does get easier) and forgive yourself for the screw up’s, learn from mistakes and emotions, feelings and everything else, and turn your life around…it’s not easy, but it can be done. Turn the Negative to Positive…
The first step is…..loose the baggage, stop talking all your past negativity into being…..,stop reminding yourself of the constant drama…stop blogging about how negative you feel….’yes today I have had a really shit day, but guess what, I had a positive in my life today ….and it was’…………………(……..just think of one ……)
Start looking to new adventures, new beginnings, and new friendships. Everytime you feel a negative coming on, turn it into a positive. For those who are depressed and regularly blog on your shit day…… Just for one week…..blog on the positive in your life, the fun, the stupid, the different.., and don’t focus on the negative…..Find at least one a day where there is a positive, a flower, a tree, a frog in a pond, a giggle, a smile, a stupid yet funny reply……..it’s really not that hard when you put your mind to Positive thinking..just one small thing can be a positive…..
We make ourselves ill and we can also heal ourselves…..
My mom gave me a book called :
This was my ‘Bible’ when I quit all meds and decided to sort myself out, stuff the dr’s and psychiatrists…
Page 216 : ‘Evaluate what you need to do in order to forgive others – and yourself, if necessary’
I have many to forgive, some I have, other’s ….I just moved on because I could not bring myself to forgive them, yet chose to ‘eliminate’ them from my life…the past is the past…
Forgive myself, …I found that hard to do, all the people who were hurt because of my depression, the choices I made, the risks I took…. all hurt others….yes I have forgiven myself for some of the choices I made, others…well, I am still dealing with those, they sometimes keep me up at night, but they wont get the better of me….
Page 216 : ‘Leave the dead and get on with your life’ (Jesus)
‘There is Only now’ (Buddha)
‘Leave the dead and get on with your life’ ….. not talking about the ‘dead people’ talking about the ‘dead’ in your life…..dead feelings, insecurities, friendships, etc etc…
‘There is only now’ …… live each day as it comes, and do not even think about what tomorrow holds…..that just sets stress and depression off…..
I learnt from having a cancer scare, loosing 75% of my bowl and undergoing radiation ……..every day could be your last…..take time to look around you and appreciate the things you have..no matter how insignificant they may seem…a positive is always a positive.
No matter how depressed and suicidal you are…there are Always people out there that have more problems than you……
Page 226 : The Sefirah of Gevurah teaches us to release the need to know why things happen as they do, and to trust that whatever the reason is, it is part of a grander spiritual design.
Your path is laid out for you from the day of conception, what you do with it is up to you, yet some of us have had a path of many crossings and have often took the wrong one, but by sheer determination and being stubborn, have finally got on the path of the straight and narrow that was intended in the very beginning.
Page 47 : The Third Principle..You Alone Can Help Yourself…..
‘Energy medicine is a holistic philosophy that teaches, “I am responsible for the creation of my health. I therefore participated, at some level, in the creation of this illness. I can participate in the healing of this illness by healing myself, which means simultaneously healing my emotional, psychological, physical and spiritual being”..
Healing and curing are not the same thing.
A “cure” occurs when one has successfully controlled or abated the physical progression of an illness. The process of curing is passive…
‘Healing on the other hand, is an active and internal process that includes investigating one’s attitudes, memories, and beliefs with the desire to release all negative patterns that prevent one’s full emotional and spiritual recovery’
So STOP hanging onto the past, the negatives, the hurts….whoever caused them are not worth you killing yourself over….yet alone destroying your life and closest to you….
Start blogging about the positives, the funny, the stupid, the not so important but made me laugh……happenings in your life.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel that you find yourself in…you just need to look for the flicker and row towards it…….its worth it in the end….
When the sky is dark and your life feels at end……. think of a positive and you can fight depession to the end…….
Living, walking, talking, blogging, ………………………………
and i could have been dead……….